Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Book of Mormon Themes: The Methods of Satan and the Effects of Sin

I.        Statement of Principle: Satan uses subtle ways to tempt us:
·         The Book of Mormon brings men to Christ through two basic means. First, it tells in a plain manner of Christ and his gospel.  Second, the Book of Mormon exposes the enemies of Christ. It confounds false doctrines and lays down contention. (See 2 Ne. 3:12.) It fortifies the humble followers of Christ against the evil designs, strategies, and doctrines of the devil in our day. God, with his infinite foreknowledge, so molded the Book of Mormon that we might see the error and know how to combat false educational, political, religious, and philosophical concepts of our time. Ezra Taft Benson, “The Book of Mormon Is the Word of God,” Ensign, May 1975, 63
  • 2 Nephi 28:2 And the things which shall be written out of the abook shall be of great bworth unto the children of men FOR IN THAT DAY: (2 Nephi 28 lists many of Satan’s methods)

Reference                Subtlety of Satan                                                         
Isaiah 5:20               Woe unto them that call aevil bgood, and good evil
Isaiah. 47: 10           Thou hast trusted in thy wickedness: thou hast said, None aseeth me.
1 Nephi 3:5               Sometimes we say it is a hard thing the Lord requires of us
1 Nephi 13:9            He wants us to desire the praise of the world
2 Nephi 2:18            Satan desires all men to be miserable
2 Nephi 2:29            The will of the flesh is sometimes evil
2 Nephi 26:22          Satan starts with small things:  he leadeth them by the neck with a flaxen cord, until he bindeth them with his strong cords forever.
2 Nephi 28:5            They say unto the people: there is no God today
2 Nephi 28: 7-8       Eat, Drink and be merry for tomorrow we die and it shall be well with us
2 Nephi 28:20          Satan stirs people up to anger against good                                                                          
2 Nephi 28:21          Satan will lull us away into carnal security so we think all is well in Zion    
2 Nephi 28:22          He wants us to think there is no devil
2 Nephi 32:8            For the evil spirit teacheth not a man to pray, but teacheth him that he must not pray
Jacob 2:13                 Because of the costliness of your apparel, ye persecute your brethren
Alma 10:25              Why hath Satan got such great hold upon your hearts that he may have power over you, to...
Alma 30:15               Ye cannot know of things which ye do not see.
Alma 46:8                 Thus we see how quick the children of men do forget the Lord, yea how quick to do iniquity
Helaman 2:8            It was the object of all those who belonged to his band to gain power
Helaman 12:2          They do harden their hearts and do forget the Lord, and this because of their ease and exceeding prosperity.
Moroni 7:17             For the devil persuadeth no man to do good, no not one.


II.     Statement of Principle: There are effects from sin:

·          2 Nephi 9:47 Ye look upon me as a teacher, it must needs be expedient that I bteach you the consequences of sin. 
·          Enos 1:23 And there was nothing save it was exceeding aharshness, bpreaching and prophesying and continually
reminding them of death, and the duration of eternity, would keep them from going down speedily to destruction.

Reference            Consequence                                                                     
2 Peter 1:1-9       But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off
1 Nephi 16:2        The wicked take the truth to be hard
2 Nephi 4:27        He destroys my peace
Mosiah 2:36         If ye should transgress, that ye do withdraw yourselves from the Spirit of the Lord, that it may have no place in you to guide you in wisdom’s paths that ye may be blessed, prospered, and preserved
Alma 41:11           They have gone contrary to the nature of God; therefore they are in a state contrary to the nature of happiness
Helaman 4:13      Because of their great wickedness, and their boastings in their own strength they were left in their own strength
Helaman 4:24      The Spirit of the Lord did no more preserve them; yea it had withdrawn from them because the Spirit of the Lord doth not dwell in unholy temples
Mormon 2:13       The Lord would not always allow them to take happiness in sin.
Mormon 5:18       They are led about by Satan as a vessel without sail or anchor or anything to steer
Moroni10:22        And if ye have no hope ye must needs be in despair; and despair cometh because of iniquity




III.    Statement of Principle: We can overcome the temptations of Satan:

Helaman 3:29 Yea, we see that whosoever will may lay hold upon the aword of God, which is bquick and powerful, which shall cdivide asunder all the cunning and the snares and the wiles of the devil, and lead the man of Christ in a strait and dnarrow course across that everlasting egulf of misery which is prepared to engulf the wicked

Reference            Solution                                                                              
Isa. 58: 6               Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the abands of wickedness
1 Nephi 15:3        Things are hard to understand if we don’t inquire of the Lord
2 Nephi 1:13        We need to “awake from a deep sleep”, or take a look at where we are at
2 Nephi 4:31        Wilt thou make me that I may shake at the appearance of sin?
2 Nephi 8:7           Fear ye not the reproach of men, neither be ye afraid of their revilings
2 Nephi 9:49        Behold, my soul abhorreth sin, and my heart adelighteth in righteousness
Jacob 2:8               The pleasing word of God, yea, the word which healeth the wounded soul
Mosiah 3:19         The natural man is an enemy to God, and will be forever unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit.
Mosiah 5:2           Because of the Spirit of the Lord Omnipotent, which has wrought a mighty achange in us, or in our hearts, that we have no more disposition to do evil, but to do good continually.
Mosiah 18:10       Ye will serve him and keep his commandments, that he may pour out his Spirit more abundantly upon you?
Alma 5:57             Come ye out from the wicked, and be ye bseparate, and touch not their unclean things
Alma 13:28          But that ye would humble yourselves before the Lord, and awatch and pray continually, that ye may not be tempted above that which ye can bear
Alma 31:5             Preaching of the word had more powerful effect upon the minds of the people than the sword or anything else.
Alma 38:12           See that ye bridle all your passions.
Alma 39:14           Seek not after riches nor the vain things of this world; for behold, you cannot carry them with you.
Alma 48:11,17     Moroni was a strong and a mighty man; and he was a man who was firm in the faith of Christ.  If all men were like unto Moroni, the very powers of hell would have been shaken, yea the devil would have no power
Alma 53:20           They were men who were true at all times in whatsoever thing they were entrusted
Alma 62:41           And many were softened because of their afflictions, insomuch that they did humble themselves before God
Helaman 3:35      Nevertheless they did afast and bpray oft, and did wax firmer and firmer in the faith of Christ, yea, even to the dpurifying and the esanctification of their hearts, which sanctification cometh because of their fyielding their hearts unto God.
Helaman 5:9        Remember that there is no other way nor means whereby man can be saved, only through the batoning blood of  Jesus Christ, who shall come; yea, remember that he cometh to credeem the dworld.
Helaman 5:12      Remember, remember that it is upon the arock of our Redeemer, that ye must build your bfoundation; that when the devil shall send all his hail and his mighty cstorm it shall have no power over you
3 Nephi 18:7        And if ye do always remember me ye shall have my Spirit to be with you
3 Nephi 18:15      I say unto you, ye must watch and pray always, lest ye be tempted by the devil.
Mormon 9:28       Ask with a firmness unshaken, that ye will yield to no temptation.
Ether 6:7               When they were encompassed about by many waters they did cry unto the Lord, and he did bring them forth again
Ether 12:27          If men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness.  For if they humble themselves before me and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong.
Moroni 6:4           They might be nourished by the good word of God
Moroni 7:13         That which is of God inviteth and enticeth to do good continually.  Do not judge that which is evil to be of God.
Moroni 7:27         Wherefore my beloved brethren, have miracles ceased?
3 Nephi 18:32      Come unto me with full purpose of heart, and I shall heal you.

 

Other Insights into How Satan Works:
By reclaiming an erring brother, we save both him and ourselves. Our sins are hidden (remitted) because we ministered for the salvation and blessing of another member of the kingdom. In principle this special reward for Christ's ministers applies also to those who preach the gospel and bring souls into the kingdom. The minister is rewarded with salvation and, of necessity, in the process, is freed from his own sins. (D&C 4:1–4.) (Bruce R. McConkie, Doctrinal New Testament Commentary, 3 vols. [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1966–73], 3:279.)

James E. Faust – Ensign, June 2006
Today we are barraged by multitudes of voices telling us how to live, how to gratify our passions, how to have it all. At our fingertips we have software, databases, television channels, interactive computer modems, satellite receivers, and communications networks that suffocate us with information. There are fewer places of refuge and serenity. Our young people are bombarded with evil and wickedness like no other generation. As I contemplate this prospect, I am reminded of the poet T. S. Eliot’s words: “Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge? Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?”11

It may be harder for our rising generation to be faithful, perhaps in some ways even more challenging than pulling a handcart across the plains. When someone died in the wilderness of frontier America, that person’s physical remains were buried and the handcarts continued west, but the mourning survivors had hope for their loved one’s eternal soul. However, when someone dies spiritually in the wilderness of sin, hope may be replaced by dread and fear for the loved one’s eternal welfare.

Many in the younger generation have been conditioned by the world to want it all and to want it now. They do not want to save or work. Such self-centered, impatient desires make them susceptible to temptation. [In 1 Nephi 22:23] the Book of Mormon identifies four categories of enticements that Satan appeals to:

• Getting gain.
• Gaining power over the flesh.
• Gaining popularity in the eyes of the world.
• Seeking the lusts of the flesh and the things of the world.

Marion G. Romney, “The Price of Peace,” Ensign, Oct 1983, 3
I know that there are some in the world who deny the existence of a personal Satan. This denial is false, being sponsored by the father of lies himself, but there is nothing new about it.” 

Richard G. Scott, BYU Aug. 1997
Recognizing that you are a person who wants to live worthily and be obedient to Father in Heaven, how would Satan strive to lead you from the path to happiness? Surely he would not be successful by tempting you to commit serious transgression—at least not initially. He would more likely fill your mind and heart with visions of many, many worthwhile things—none of which could be criticized as being wrong, but, taken together, they would so occupy your time that you would not do those things that are absolutely essential for eternal life with Father in Heaven and his Beloved Son. Nephi warned of that approach.
 
Jeffrey R. Holland, “‘Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence’,” Ensign, Mar 2000, 7
“The reminder is that we cannot sign on for a battle of such eternal significance and everlasting consequence without knowing it will be a fight—a good fight and a winning fight, but a fight nevertheless. I suppose every returned missionary and probably every convert reading these words knows exactly what I am talking about.”  

James E. Faust, “Ten Things to Know Before You Go,” New Era, Jul 2002, 4
You must know that Satan will oppose you, and be prepared for his opposition. Do not be surprised. He wants you to fail. Discouragement is one of the devil’s tools. Have courage and go forward. Recognize that the gospel has been preached with some pain and sorrow from the very beginning of time. Do not expect that your experience will be otherwise.  

Sin is addictive; self-degenerating; conducive to other strains of corruption; deadening to spirituality, conscience, and reason; blinding to reality; contagious; destructive to mind, body, and spirit. Sin is spiritually corrosive. Unrestrained it becomes all-consuming. It is overcome by repentance and righteousness.

Richard G. Scott, "To Acquire Spiritual Guidance", Ensign, Nov. 2009
I share a warning. Satan is extremely good at blocking spiritual communication by inducing individuals, through temptation, to violate the laws upon which spiritual communication is founded. With some, he is able to convince them that they are not able to receive such guidance from the Lord.


Monday, February 8, 2016

Book of Mormon & Prophets & Apostles: How to Become Sanctified



Mosiah 4:2 They had viewed themselves in their own carnal state, even less than the dust of the earth. And they all cried aloud with one voice, saying: O have mercy, and apply the atoning blood of Christ that we may receive forgiveness of our sins, and our hearts may be purified; for we believe in Jesus Christ.

Mosiah 4:11 If ye have known of his goodness and have tasted of his love, and have received a remission of your sins, which causeth such exceedingly great joy in your souls, even so I would that ye should ... always retain in remembrance, the greatness of God, and your own nothingness, and his goodness and long-suffering towards you, unworthy creatures, and humble yourselves even in the depths of humility, calling on the name of the Lord daily, and standing steadfastly in the faith of that which is to come, which was spoken by the mouth of the angel.  And behold, I say unto you that if ye do this ye shall always rejoice, and be filled with the love of God, and always retain a remission of your sins; and ye shall grow in the knowledge of the glory of him that created you, or in the knowledge of that which is just and true.

Alma 13:11-12 And were sanctified and their garments were washed white through the blood of the Lamb. Now they, after being sanctified by the Holy Ghost, having their garments made white, being pure and spotless before God, could not look upon sin save it were with abhorrence.

Helaman 3:34-35 The more humble part of the people to suffer great persecutions, and to wade through much affliction. Nevertheless, they did fast and pray oft, and did wax stronger and stronger in their humility, and firmer and firmer in the faith of Christ unto the filling their souls with joy and consolation, yea, even to the purifying and the sanctification of their hearts, which sanctification cometh because of their yielding their hearts unto God.

3 Nephi 24:3 (Malachi 3) And he shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver; and he shall purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver, that they may offer unto the Lord an offering in righteousness.

3 Nephi 27:20 Repent, all ye ends of the earth, and come unto me and be baptized in my name, that ye may be sanctified by the reception of the Holy Ghost, that ye may stand spotless before me at the last day.

Moroni 10:32-33 Yea, come unto Christ, and be perfected in him, and deny yourselves of all ungodliness; and if ye shall deny yourselves of all ungodliness, and love God with all your might, mind and strength, then is his grace sufficient for you, that by his grace ye may be perfect in Christ; and if by the grace of God ye are perfect in Christ, ye can in nowise deny the power of God.
And again, if ye by the grace of God are perfect in Christ, and deny not his power, then are ye sanctified in Christ by the grace of God, through the shedding of the blood of Christ, which is in the covenant of the Father unto the remission of your sins, that ye become holy, without spot




There is no other way in which the Saints can make spiritual improvement and be prepared for an inheritance in the celestial kingdom than through tribulation. Take it individually or take it collectively, we have suffered and we shall have to suffer again; and why? Because the Lord requires it at our hands for our sanctification. (7 October 1857, JD, 5:323.)

Elder Bruce R. McConkie, Mormon Doctrine, 
 Pg.675 SANCTIFICATION
To be sanctified is to become clean, pure, and spotless; to be free from the blood and sins of the world; to become a new creature of the Holy Ghost, one whose body has been renewed by the rebirth of the Spirit. Sanctification is a state of saintliness, a state attained only by conformity to the laws and ordinances of the gospel. The plan of salvation is the system and means provided whereby men may sanctify their souls and thereby become worthy of a celestial inheritance.
   Sanctification is a basic doctrine of the gospel (D. & C. 20:31‑34); indeed, the very reason men are commanded to believe, repent, and be baptized is so they "may be sanctified by the reception of the Holy Ghost," and thereby be enabled to stand spotless before the judgment bar of Christ. (2 Ne. 27:19‑21.)

Elder Bruce R. McConkie, A New Witness for the Articles of Faith

There are also numerous other sacred occasions when the saints may get in tune with and receive the sanctifying power of the Holy Spirit in their lives. The receipt of this heaven‑sent boon always attests that the recipient has forsaken the world and is no longer encumbered by its wicked ways. One of these occasions may attend a proper anointing and blessing of the sick. "Is any sick among you?"James asks. "Let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: and the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed." (James 5:14‑16.) 

If the Spirit of the Lord rests upon one who is being blessed by the elders, in connection with this or any other ordinance, it automatically follows that the one blessed receives a remission of his sins; otherwise the Spirit would not be present. We do not want for occasions upon which sins may be remitted. Our problem is one of so living that we are worthy to have the companionship of the Spirit in our lives.

Sunday, January 17, 2016

Scriptures which Teach about our Responsibility for Caring for the Poor and Needy

The Poor

A few weeks ago we finished reading the Old Testament as a family. One of the things that stood out to me was how often the Lord spoke of our responsibility to care for the poor and needy. We know from modern scriptures how our own salvation depends on how we care for the poor and needy, but the Old and New Testament writers taught the same principle.

"Few, if any, of the Lord’s instructions are stated more often, or given more emphasis in the scriptures than is the commandment that we members of his church take care of the poor."
            --Elder Marion G. Romney in “Caring for the Poor: A Covenantal Obligation”  

I think if we prayerfully study these and other scriptures on caring for the poor, we will come to a better understanding of what we personally should do.

2 Nephi 28:13 They rob the poor because of the fine sanctuaries; they rob the poor because of their fine clothing;

Mosiah 4:26-27 For the sake of retaining a remission of your sins from day to day, that ye may walk guiltless before God – I would that ye should impart of your substance to the poor ... both spiritually and temporally, according to their wants. And see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength.

Alma 1:27, 30 And they did impart of their substance, every man according to that which he had, to the poor, and the needy, and the sick, and the afflicted; and they did not wear costly apparel, yet they were neat and comely. And they did not set their hearts upon riches.

4 Nephi 1:3 And they had all things common among them; therefore there were not rich and poor, bond and free, but they were all made free, and partakers of the heavenly gift.

Mormon 8:36-37 I know that ye do walk in the pride of your hearts; and there are none save a few only who do not lift themselves up in the pride of their hearts, unto the wearing of very fine apparel, unto envying, and strifes, and persecutions, and all manner of iniquities. For behold, ye do love money, and your substance, and your fine apparel, and the adorning of your churches, more than ye love the poor and the needy, the sick and the afflicted.

D&C 42:29–31 And behold, thou wilt remember the poor, and consecrate of thy properties for their support … with a covenant and a deed which cannot be broken. And inasmuch as ye impart of your substance unto the poor, ye will do it unto me.

D&C 52:40 Remember … the poor and the needy, the sick and the afflicted, for he that doeth not these things, the same is not my disciple.

D&C 56:16 Wo unto you rich men, that will not give your substance to the poor, for your riches will canker your souls; and this shall be your lamentation in the day of visitation, and of judgment, and of indignation: The harvest is past, the summer is ended, and my soul is not saved!

Deuteronomy 15:11 For the poor shall never cease out of the land: therefore I command thee, saying, Thou shalt open thine hand wide unto thy brother, to thy poor, and to thy needy, in thy land.

Isaiah 3:15 What mean ye that ye beat my people to pieces, and grind the faces of the poor? saith the Lord God of hosts.

Isaiah 58:6-9  Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke? Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry, and that thou bring the poor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from thine own flesh? Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee; then shalt thou call, and the Lord shall answer.

Matthew 25:34–40. Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in, Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me.


See also:
President Dieter F. Uchtdorf “Providing in the Lord’s Way”
Elder Jeffery R. Holland, “Are We Not all Beggers?”

Sunday, January 10, 2016

What the Prophets have Said about Hanging Out, Dating and Kissing

As parents, we are trying to give our teenagers the best guidance we can. One area that often brings a lot of discussion is hanging out, dating and affection and how much is O.K. Over the years we have studied what the prophets and apostles have said on this topic and put together these quotes so we can share them with our children.

WHY STAY MORALLY CLEAN?
1. “Truly, you are a chosen generation. Peter speaks of “an holy nation,” [and] Peter’s final description—“a peculiar people.”  Of course you are peculiar. If the world continues its present trend, and if you walk in obedience to the doctrines and principles of this church, you may become even more peculiar in the eyes of others.”       
             Gordon B. Hinckley, “This Favored Season,” Liahona, Sep 1995 
 2. “Lehi’s dream or vision of the iron rod has in it everything a young Latter-day Saint needs to understand the test of life. The great and spacious building was filled with people pointing their fingers towards those who had come at and were partaking of the fruit. One word in this dream or vision should have special meaning to you. The word is after. It was after the people had found the tree that they became ashamed, and because of the mockery of the world they fell away.”      Boyd K. Packer, “Lehi’s Dream and You”, Jan 2007

3. “Within the enduring covenant of marriage, the Lord permits husband and wife the expression of the sacred procreative powers in all their loveliness and beauty.  One purpose of this private, sacred, intimate experience is to provide the physical bodies for spirits to experience mortality. Another reason for these powerful and beautiful feelings of love is to bind husband and wife together in loyalty, fidelity, consideration of each other.  Within the sacred covenant of marriage, such relationships are according to His plan. When experienced any other way, they are against His will. They cause serious emotional and spiritual harm. Even though participants do not realize that is happening now, they will later.”
        Richard G. Scott, “Serious Questions, Serious Answers,” New Era, Oct 1995

4.  “And now just a word on the most common and most difficult of all problems for you young men and young women to handle. It is the relationship that you have one with another. You are dealing with the most powerful of human instincts. Only the will to live possibly exceeds it.  The Lord has made us attractive one to another for a great purpose. But this very attraction becomes as a powder keg unless it is kept under control. It is beautiful when handled in the right way. It is deadly if it gets out of hand.”
              
Gordon B. Hinckley, “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” Ensign, Jan. 2001


IS IT O.K. TO STEADY DATE IN HIGH SCHOOL/ BEFORE A MISSION?
1. “Avoid steady dating with a young man prior to the time of his mission call. If your relationship with him is more casual, then he can make that decision to serve more easily and also can concentrate his full energies on his missionary work instead of the girlfriend back home. And after he returns honorably from his mission, he will be a better husband and father and priesthood holder, having first served a full-time mission.”
                    Ezra Taft Benson, “To the Young Women of the Church,” Ensign, Nov. 1986

2. “God has planted in you, for a purpose, a divine urge which may be easily subverted to evil and destructive ends. When you are young, do not get involved in steady dating. When you reach an age where you think of marriage, then is the time to become so involved. But you boys who are in high school don’t need this, and neither do the girls.  Have a wonderful time with the young women. Do things together, but do not get too serious too soon. You have missions ahead of you, and you cannot afford to compromise this great opportunity and responsibility.”       
             Gordon B. Hinckley, “Some Thoughts on Temples & Missionary Service,” Ens Nov. 1997

3. “If you are old enough to date, you are old enough to know that your parents have not only the right but the sacred obligation, and they are under counsel from the leaders of the Church, to concern themselves with your dating habits. If you are mature enough to date, you are mature enough to accept without childish, juvenile argument their authority as parents to set rules of conduct for you.

“When are you old enough? Maturity may vary from individual to individual, but we are convinced that dating should not even begin until you are 16. And then, ideal dating is on a group basis. Stay in group activities; don’t pair off. Avoid steady dating. Steady dating is courtship, and surely the beginning of courtship ought to be delayed until you have emerged from your teens.

“How foolish is the youth who feels that the Church is a fence around love to keep him out. Oh, youth, if you could know! The requirements of the Church are the highway to love and to happiness, with guardrails securely in place, with guideposts plainly marked, and with help along the way.“              
                  Boyd K. Packer, “You’re in the Driver’s Seat,” New Era, June 2004

4. “The Lord has made us attractive one to another for a great purpose. But this very attraction becomes as a powder keg unless it is kept under control. It is beautiful when handled in the right way. It is deadly if it gets out of hand.  It is for this reason that the Church counsels against early dating. This rule is not designed to hurt you in any way. It is designed to help you, and it will do so if you will observe it.
“Steady dating at an early age leads so often to tragedy. Studies have shown that the longer a boy and girl date one another, the more likely they are to get into trouble.  It is better, my friends, to date a variety of companions until you are ready to marry. Have a wonderful time, but stay away from familiarity. Keep your hands to yourself. It may not be easy, but it is possible.”
                        
Gordon B. Hinckley, “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” Ensign, Jan. 2001

HANGING OUT


1. Many LDS teens are moving away from the traditional date and instead they are just hanging out—getting together informally and doing whatever—usually watching TV or a movie or talking. The words we use to describe associating with people of the opposite sex may change, and the trends in socializing may change, but principles and guidelines for our behavior stay the same.

Don’t play with definitions. Some LDS teens think it’s okay to pair off exclusively with one person before they are 16 because they call it hanging out instead of dating. It’s still spending time alone with one person. If you pair off, the attractions and emotions you will feel toward that person are the same whether you call it dating, going out, going steady, or hanging out.

“Church leaders have given us wise counsel to help us deal with these attractions and emotions in For the Strength of Youth. Let’s look at some of the counsel they have given for dating, and see how it applies to hanging out.

“Do not date until you are at least 16 years old. Dating before then can lead to immorality, limit the number of other young people you meet, and deprive you of experiences that will help you choose an eternal partner.” The same can be said for hanging out with one person a lot.

“Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person.” A major reason for that advice is to avoid spending too much time with one person, which is exactly what hanging out often leads to. “                  
                  “
Q&A: Questions and Answers,” New Era, Apr 2002
KISSING
1. In any healthy, long-lasting relationship, affection is an essential element—not as an end in itself, but as an expression of genuine feeling. Speaking of affection in courtship, President Spencer W. Kimball has described an appropriate courtship kiss as “like the kiss between a mother and a son or a daughter and a father.” 
              Spencer W. Kimball, In Sydney Australia Area Conference Report, 29 Feb. 1976

2. Satan tempts one to believe that there are allowable levels of physical contact between consenting individuals who seek the powerful stimulation of emotions they produce, and if kept within bounds, no harm will result. As a witness of Jesus Christ, I testify that is absolutely false. When you are mature enough to plan seriously for marriage, keep your expressions of feelings to those that are comfortable in the presence of your parents.
                     
Richard G. Scott, “Serious Questions, Serious Answers,” New Era, Oct 1995

3. “What is miscalled the soul kiss is an abomination and stirs passion that results in the eventual loss of virtue. Even if timely courtship justifies a kiss, it should be a clean, decent, sexless one. … If the soul kiss with its passion were eliminated from dating, there would be an immediate upswing in chastity and honor.  With the absence of the soul kiss, necking would be greatly reduced. Its younger sister, petting, would be totally eliminated. Both are abominations of their own right and kind.”
            
Spencer W. Kimball, Sydney Australia Area Conference, 29 Feb. 1976

HOW FAR IS TOO FAR?


1. They always tell us we shouldn’t become sexually involved, but they never tell us the limits. What are they?  Any sexual intimacy outside of the bonds of marriage—I mean any intentional contact with the sacred, private parts of another’s body, with or without clothing—is a sin and is forbidden by God. It is also a transgression to intentionally stimulate these emotions within your own body.

2. “Satan tempts one to believe that there are allowable levels of physical contact between consenting individuals who seek the powerful stimulation of emotions they produce, and if kept within bounds, no harm will result. As a witness of Jesus Christ, I testify that is absolutely false.  When you are mature enough to plan seriously for marriage, keep your expressions of feelings to those that are comfortable in the presence of your parents.”                                       Richard G. Scott, “Serious Questions, Serious Answers,” New Era, Oct 1995

3. Necking and Petting: “Among the most common sexual sins our young people commit are necking and petting. Not only do these improper relations often lead to fornication, pregnancy, and abortions—all ugly sins—but in and of themselves they are pernicious evils”


 “In interviewing repenting young folks, as well as some older ones, I am frequently told that the couple met their defeat in the dark, at late hours, in secluded areas. … The car was most often the confessed seat of the difficulty”
                   Spencer W. Kimball, The Miracle of Forgiveness, p. 225

Monday, November 16, 2015

What the Prophets Have Said About Debt

President Thomas S. Monson, “Are We Prepared?” Ensign, September 2014
We urge all Latter-day Saints to be prudent in their planning, to be conservative in their living, and to avoid excessive or unnecessary debt. Many more people could ride out the storm-tossed waves in their economic lives if they had a supply of food and clothing and were debt-free. Today we find that many have followed this counsel in reverse: they have a supply of debt and are food-free.

President Gordon B. Hinckley, “To the Boys and to the Men,” Ensign, November 1998
But I am suggesting that the time has come to get our houses in order. So many of our people are living on the very edge of their incomes. In fact, some are living on borrowings.  There is a portent of stormy weather ahead to which we had better give heed.  Self-reliance cannot obtain when there is serious debt hanging over a household. One has neither independence nor freedom from bondage when he is obligated to others.

This is a part of the temporal gospel in which we believe. May the Lord bless you, my beloved brethren, to set your houses in order. If you have paid your debts, if you have a reserve, even though it be small, then should storms howl about your head, you will have shelter for your wives and children and peace in your hearts.

The economy is particularly vulnerable. We have been counseled again and again concerning self-reliance, concerning debt, concerning thrift. So many of our people are heavily in debt for things that are not entirely necessary. When I was a young man, my father counseled me to build a modest home, sufficient for the needs of my family. He counseled me to pay off the mortgage as quickly as I could so that, come what may, there would be a roof over the heads of my wife and children. I urge you as members of this Church to get free of debt where possible and to have a little laid aside against a rainy day.

Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin, “Earthy Debts, Heavenly Debts,” Ensign, May 2004
Remember this: debt is a form of bondage. It is a financial termite. Some debt—such as for a modest home, expenses for education, perhaps for a needed first car—may be necessary. But never should we enter into financial bondage through consumer debt without carefully weighing the costs.
The counsel from other inspired prophets in our time on this subject is clear, and what was true 50 or 150 years ago is also true today.
President Heber J. Grant said, “From my earliest recollections, from the days of Brigham Young until now, I have listened to men standing in the pulpit … urging the people not to run into debt; and I believe that the great majority of all our troubles today is caused through the failure to carry out that counsel.” 3
President Ezra Taft Benson said, “Do not leave yourself or your family unprotected against financial storms. … Build up savings.” 4
President Harold B. Lee taught, “Not only should we teach men to get out of debt but we should teach them likewise to stay out of debt.” 5
President Gordon B. Hinckley declared: “Many of our people are living on the very edge of their incomes. In fact, some are living on borrowings. … I urge you to be modest in your expenditures; discipline yourselves in your purchases to avoid debt to the extent possible. Pay off debt as quickly as you can, and free yourselves from bondage.” 6

Elder L. Tom Perry, “If Ye Are Prepared Ye Shall Not Fear,” Ensign, November 1995
Wisely we have been counseled to avoid debt as we would avoid the plague. President J. Reuben Clark fearlessly and repeatedly counseled members of the Church to take action.
“Live within your means. Get out of debt. Keep out of debt. Lay by for a rainy day which has always come and will come again. Practice and increase your habits of thrift, industry, economy, and frugality” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1937, p. 107).

Elder James E. Faust, “The Responsibility for Welfare Rests with Me and My Family,” Ensign, May 1986
I wish to speak of the basic principles that keep our feet on the ground economically. This is important to our happiness. Let us examine ourselves and, like pilots in the sky, take our bearings to see if we are on course financially. We must build upon sound principles. The bedrock principle of which I speak is that the responsibility for welfare rests with me and my family.

Elder Ezra Taft Benson stated: “A large proportion of families with personal debt have no liquid assets whatsoever to fall back upon. What troubles they invite if their income should be suddenly cut off or seriously reduced! We all know of families who have obligated themselves for more than they could pay.” (Pay Thy Debt, and Live, Brigham Young University Speeches of the Year, Provo: 28 Feb. 1963, p. 10.)

Owning a home free of debt is an important goal of provident living, although it may not be a realistic possibility for some. A mortgage on a home leaves a family unprotected against severe financial storms. Homes that are free and clear of mortgages and liens cannot be foreclosed on. When there are good financial times, it is the most opportune time to retire our debts and pay installments in advance. It is a truth that “the borrower is servant to the lender.” (Prov. 22:7.)

Many young people have become so hypnotized by the rhythm of monthly payments they scarcely think of the total cost of what they buy. They immediately want things it took their parents years to acquire. It is not the pathway to happiness to assume debts for a big home, an expensive car, or the most stylish clothes just so we can “keep up with the Joneses.” Payment of obligations is a sacred trust. Most of us will never be rich, but we can feel greatly unburdened when we are debt-free.

Thursday, September 10, 2015

The Relationship Between Charity and the Attributes of Christ

My son and I were recently discussing charity, and since he returned home from his two-year mission last year, he had been studying Preach My Gospel and the Attributes of Christ that it lists. He pointed out to me that the attributes Christ closely parallel the attributes of charity that Paul teaches about in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and Moroni teaches in Moroni 7:45-48. I had also been studying the last half of Mosiah 3:19 to understand how we "becometh a saint."

Elder Bednar gave a very helpful talk about charity entitled "The Character of Christ." Here is one of the quotes from it that has helped me:

Let me suggest that you and I must be praying and yearning and striving and working to cultivate a Christlike character if we hope to receive the spiritual gift of charity--the pure love of Christ. Charity is not a trait or characteristic we acquire exclusively through our own purposive persistence and determination. Indeed we must honor our covenants and live worthily and do all that we can do to qualify for the gift; but ultimately the gift of charity possesses us--we do not posses it (see Moroni 7:47). 

The Lord determines if and when we receive all spiritual gifts, but we must do all in our power to desire and yearn and invite and qualify for such gifts. As we increasingly act in a manner congruent with the character of Christ, then perhaps we are indicating to heaven in a most powerful manner our desire for the supernal spiritual gift of charity. And clearly we are being blessed with this marvelous gift as we increasingly reach outward when the natural man or woman in us would typically turn inward.


Aspects of Charity

Charity- Moroni 7, 1 Cor. 13
Attributes of Christ– PMG 6
Becometh a Saint-Mosiah 3:19
suffereth long
patience
patience
kind
charity and love
full of love
envieth not
humility

not puffed up
humility
meek, humble
seeketh not her own
obedience
submissive
not easily provoked
patience
patience
thinketh no evil
virtue

rejoiceth not in iniquity
virtue

rejoiceth in the truth
virtue

beareth all things
diligence
willing to submit to all things
believeth all things
faith in Jesus Christ

hopeth all things
hope

endureth all things
diligence



becometh as a child

knowledge





Elder Maxwell  The Greek rendition of the word "meek" in the New Testament, by the way, is “gentle and humble.”  Actually, meekness is not an attribute which is essential only in itself, said Moroni. It is also vital because one cannot develop those other crucial virtues—faith, hope, and charity—without meekness. In the ecology of the eternal attributes, these cardinal characteristics are inextricably bound up together. Among them, meekness is often the initiator, facilitator, and consolidator.
Meekness, however, is more than self-restraint; it is the presentation of self in a posture of kindness and gentleness, reflecting certitude, strength, serenity, and a healthy self-esteem and self-control.

Furthermore, not only are the meek less easily offended, but they are less likely to give offense to others. Meekness also cultivates in us a generosity in viewing the mistakes and imperfections of others.   

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Perhaps the Greatest Charity Comes When We Don’t Judge or Categorize Someone Else

Usually when I collect quotes I want to remember, I try to pick my 1 or 2 favorite paragraphs. But with Elder Ashton's talk below, he had so many great paragraphs that I am trying to incorporate into my life that I have included some of them here.


In 1992, Elder Marvin J. Ashton beautifully observed:
Charity is, perhaps, in many ways a misunderstood word. We often equate charity with visiting the sick, taking in casseroles to those in need, or sharing our excess with those who are less fortunate. But really, true charity is much, much more.

Real charity is not something you give away; it is something that you acquire and make a part of yourself. And when the virtue of charity becomes implanted in your heart, you are never the same again.

Perhaps the greatest charity comes when we are kind to each other, when we don’t judge or categorize someone else, when we simply give each other the benefit of the doubt or remain quiet.

Charity is accepting someone’s differences, weaknesses, and shortcomings; having patience with someone who has let us down; or resisting the impulse to become offended when someone doesn’t handle something the way we might have hoped. Charity is refusing to take advantage of another’s weakness and being willing to forgive someone who has hurt us. Charity is expecting the best of each other.

If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care.
If the adversary can influence us to pick on each other, to find fault, bash, and undermine, to judge or humiliate or taunt, half his battle is won. Why? Because though this sort of conduct may not equate with succumbing to grievous sin, it nevertheless neutralizes us spiritually.


In exercising charity, we come to know a sister’s heart. When we know a sister’s heart, we are different. We won’t judge her. We will simply love her. I invite you to not only love each other more but love each other better. As we do this we will come to know with a surety that “charity never faileth.” 15