How do I Improve my Scripture Study? Ask Questions While Studying the Scriptures

I am always trying to find ways to bring the Spirit while I study my scriptures and make my study more meaningful. I am learning that asking questions brings insights and understanding, so I have been asking around and compiling ideas for good questions.

Questions to Consider While Studying the Scriptures

Relates to Me Personally or those I care about

How is this story like my life?

What topic do I need to study so I can help so and so?

What problems am I facing I would like answers about?

What scripture topic might help me receive revelation about a problem I am facing?

Context & Background

What is the context or background of this scripture?

Why was this scripture given? Is there a question or situation in the verses before?

What is the upstream doctrine?

            Some Christ-like attributes follow others – Charity is the culminating of all

Which core doctrine does this relate to?

Read the scripture backwards for different insights.

Can I diagram this verse?

Ex. Helaman 3:27-30 Pray + Believe + Read = Eternal Life

Is there a list in these verses?

Other Questions

Always ask, “Is there a connection between this subject and something else?

            Ex. Why is the word understand often used with the word heart?

Why does the Lord say it this way?

Why did he choose mercy instead of...?

Make a connection and then ask if there are scriptures to back it up.

Is this verse part of a bigger pattern or theme?

Improving Scripture Study from Elder Bednar, “A Reservoir of Living Water,” 2007

The blessings of knowledge, understanding, revelation, and spiritual exhilaration that we can receive as we read, study, and search the scriptures are marvelous.

I want to review with you three basic ways or methods of obtaining living water from the scriptural reservoir: (1) reading the scriptures from beginning to end, (2) studying the scriptures by topic, and (3) searching the scriptures for connections, patterns, and themes. Each of these approaches can help satisfy our spiritual thirst if we invite the companionship and assistance of the Holy Ghost as we read, study, and search.

Topical Study - We may identify and seek to find answers to important doctrinal and practical questions such as these:
• What is faith in the Savior?
• Why is faith in Jesus Christ the first principle of the gospel?
• Why and how does faith in the Redeemer lead to repentance?
• How does the Atonement strengthen me to do things in my daily life that I could never do with my own limited capacity and in my own strength?

Searching in The Revelations for Connections, Patterns, and Themes

In my judgment, diligently searching to discover connections, patterns, and themes is in part what it means to “feast” upon the words of Christ. This approach can open the floodgates of the spiritual reservoir, enlighten our understanding through His Spirit, and produce a depth of gratitude for the holy scriptures and a degree of spiritual commitment that can be received in no other way.

 

I. Connections - a relationship or link between ideas, people, things, or events

Prayerfully identifying, learning about, and pondering such connections—the similarities and differences, for example—is a primary source of living water.

Between:
   1. The Eternal Father and His Son, Jesus Christ (see Mosiah 15:1–9)
   2.  Mercy and grace (see 2 Nephi 9:8)
   3.  Clean hands and a pure heart (see Psalm 24:4)
   4.  A broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3 Nephi 9:20)
   5.  The wheat and the tares (see D&C 101:65)
   6.  Knowledge and intelligence (see D&C 130:18–19)
   7.  Justification and sanctification (see D&C 20:30–31)
   8.  Sheep and goats (see Matthew 25:32–33)
   9.  Immortality and eternal life (see Moses 1:39)
  10.  I noticed that the word understanding was commonly described in relation to the heart.

1.      I find it most interesting in these and many other verses that understanding is linked primarily to the heart. Note that we are not explicitly counseled to apply our minds to understanding. Thus, understanding, as the word is used in the scriptures, does not refer solely or even primarily to intellectual or cognitive comprehension. Rather, understanding occurs when what we know in our minds is confirmed as true in our hearts by the witness of the Holy Ghost.

2.      The spiritual gift of revelation most typically operates as thoughts and feelings put into our minds and hearts by the Holy Ghost (see D&C 8:2–3, 100:5–8). And as testimony and conviction move from our heads to our hearts, we no longer just have information or knowledge—but we begin to understand and seek after the mighty change of heart. Understanding, then, is the result of revelation; it is a spiritual gift, it is a prerequisite to conversion, and it entices us to more consistently live in accordance with the principles we are learning.

3.         This revealed insight about the relationship between the heart and understanding has greatly influenced my approach to gospel learning and study, has affected positively the way Sister Bednar and I teach our children and grandchildren, and has impacted my priesthood service.

II.    Patterns - a plan, model, or standard that can be used as a guide for repetitively doing or making something.

A.    Typically, a scriptural pattern is broader and more comprehensive than a connection.

B.     In the Doctrine and Covenants we find patterns for:

1.  Preaching the gospel (see D&C 50:13–29),
2.  Avoiding deception (see D&C 52:14, 18–19)
3.  Constructing temples (see D&C 115:14–16)
4.  Establishing cities (see D&C 94)
5.  Organizing priesthood quorums (see D&C 107:85–100)

C.   Identifying and studying scriptural patterns helps us become acquainted and more familiar with the wisdom and the mind of the Lord (see D&C 95:13).

D.   As I have both read from beginning to end and studied topics in the Doctrine and Covenants, I have been impressed with a pattern that is evident in many of the Lord’s responses to the questions of missionaries. On a number of occasions in 1831, various groups of elders who had been called to preach the gospel desired to know how they should proceed and by what route and manner they should travel.

1.     The principal issues in this episode are not horses, mules, or chariots; rather, they are gratitude, judgment, and faithfulness. Please note the basic elements in this pattern: (1) a thankful heart in all things; (2) act according to judgment and the directions of the Spirit; and (3) the Savior is with the faithful always. Can we begin to sense the direction and assurance, the renewal and strength that can come from following this simple pattern for inspired and righteous judgment? Truly, scriptural patterns are a precious source of living water.

2.     The most demanding judgments we ever make are seldom between good or bad or between attractive and unattractive alternatives. Usually, our toughest choices are between good and good. In this scriptural episode, horses, mules, and chariots may have been equally effective options for missionary travel. In a similar way, you and I also might identify at various times in our lives more than one acceptable opportunity or option that we could choose to pursue. We should remember this pattern from the scriptures as we approach such important decisions. If we put essential things first in our lives—things such as dedicated discipleship, honoring covenants, and keeping the commandments—then we will be blessed with inspiration and strong judgment as we pursue the path that leads us back to our heavenly home. If we put essential things first, we “cannot go amiss” (D&C 80:3).

III. Themes - overarching, recurring, and unifying qualities or ideas.

A.    [They are] like essential threads woven throughout a text.

B.     Generally, scriptural themes are broader and more comprehensive than patterns or connections.

C.     Themes provide the background and context for understanding connections and patterns.

D.    The process of searching for and identifying scriptural themes leads us to the fundamental doctrines and principles of salvation—to the eternal truths that invite the confirming witness of the Holy Ghost (see 1 John 5:6).

E.     This approach to obtaining living water from the scriptural reservoir is the most demanding and rigorous; it also yields the greatest edification and spiritual refreshment.

F.   The scriptures are replete with powerful themes.
   1. The central and recurring theme of the Book of Mormon is the invitation for all to “come unto Christ, and be perfected in him” (Moroni 10:32). The teachings, warnings, admonitions, and episodes in this remarkable book of scripture all focus upon and testify of Jesus the Christ as the Redeemer and our Savior.
   2. “If . . . the children of men keep the commandments of God he doth nourish them, and strengthen them, and provide means whereby they can accomplish the thing which he has commanded them” (1 Nephi 17:3).
   3. “Press forward with a steadfastness in Christ” (2 Nephi 31:20).
   4. “Men are, that they might have joy” (2 Nephi 2:25).
   5. “In the strength of the Lord thou canst do all things” (Alma 20:4).
   6. “Wickedness never was happiness” (Alma 41:10).

Ask, "What does this word mean?"

             ex. from Elder David A. Bednar, “In the Strength of the Lord”: 

In the Bible Dictionary in our scriptures we learn that the word grace frequently is used in the scriptures to connote enabling power. In my personal scripture study I often insert the term enabling power whenever I encounter the word grace. I believe we can learn much about this vital aspect of the Atonement if we will insert enabling and strengthening power each time we find the word grace in the scriptures.

How to Be a Better Parent: Counsel From Prophets and Apostles

1.   MAKE PARENTING A PRIORITY – Our Children need quantity and quality time

Thomas S. Monson, “The Path to Peace,” Apr. 94

So frequently we mistakenly believe that our children need more things, when in reality their silent pleadings are simply for more of our time.

Neal Maxwell, “Take Especial Care of Your Family,” Apr. 94

Obviously, family values mirror our personal priorities.  Given the gravity of current conditions, would parents be willing to give up just one outside thing, giving that time and talent instead to the family?  Parents and grandparents, please scrutinize your schedules and priorities in order to ensure that life’s prime time relationships get more prime time!        

Howard W. Hunter, “Being a Righteous Husband and Father,” Oct. 1994

Your leadership of the family is your most important and sacred responsibility. The family is the most important unit in time and in eternity and, as such, transcends every other interest in life. Effective family leadership, brethren, requires both quantity and quality time.

L. Tom Perry, “Therefore I was Taught,” Apr. 94

Family life, where children and parents communicate together in study, play, and work, has been replaced by a quick, individual, microwave dinner and an evening in front of the TV set.  I’ve often thought of the happy times we had when our family was young. 

There are two areas I would determine to improve if that privilege were granted to me to have young children in our home once again. 

• The first would be to spend more time as husband and wife in a family executive committee meeting learning, communicating, planning, and organizing to better fulfill our roles as parents. 
• The second wish I would like, if I could have those years over, would be to spend more family time.  This includes more consistent, meaningful family home evenings.”

Neal A. Maxwell, Things As They Really Are, 4

Our "luggage," as we leave this life, will include the intelligence we have acquired while here. (D&C 130:18‑19.) Not everything we have learned will be useful enough to go with us; memorized phone numbers, a brief convenience here, would not be helpful there, but a highly developed capacity to love others will be essential equipment in the celestial kingdom.

Neal A. Maxwell, We Will Prove Them Herewith

Should it surprise us that in striving to acquire and develop celestial attributes, the greater the interpersonal proximity, the greater the challenge?  Is not patience, for instance, best developed among those with whom we interface incessantly?  The same is true with any of the other eternal attributes.  Hence the high adventure of marriage and family life ‑‑ and why it is that in our time so many run away from these challenges thinking they can avoid having to confront themselves by losing themselves in other endeavors or life‑styles.

2.      UNDERSTAND AND BALANCE DISCIPLINE

James E. Faust, “The Atonement: Our Greatest Hope,” October 2001

With reference to our mortal acts and the Atonement, President J. Reuben Clark Jr. contributed this valuable insight when he said:

“I feel that [the Savior] will give that punishment which is the very least that our transgression will justify. I believe that he will bring into his justice all of the infinite love and blessing and mercy and kindness and understanding which he has. …

“And on the other hand, I believe that when it comes to making the rewards for our good conduct, he will give us the maximum that it is possible to give, having in mind the offense which we have committed.” 30

As Isaiah wrote, if we will return unto the Lord, “he will abundantly pardon.” 31

Gordon B. Hinckley, Bring up a Child in the Way He Should Go,” Oct. 93
Love can make the difference-love generously given in childhood and reaching through the awkward years of youth.  It will do what money lavished on children will never do.
And patience, with a bridling of the tongue and self-mastery over anger. And encouragement that is quick to compliment and slow to criticize.
These, with prayers, will accomplish wonders.  You cannot expect to do it alone.  You need heaven’s help in rearing heaven’s child. 
Howard W. Hunter, “Parents’ Concern for Children,” Oct. 1983

We should remember that errors of judgment are generally less serious than errors of intent.

Even if there was a mistake made with full knowledge and understanding, there is the principle of repentance for release and comfort. Rather than constantly dwelling on what we perceive as a mistake or a sin or a failure to the detriment of our progress in the gospel or our association with family and friends, it would be better for us to turn away from it.

3.   STUDYING DOCTRINE WILL IMPROVE BEHAVIOR QUICKER THAN TALKING ABOUT BEHAVIOR

Boyd K. Packer, “Washed Clean,” April 1997

My message is to our young people. We have great concern for young people who grow up without values on which to base their conduct. I have long believed that the study of the doctrines of the gospel will improve behavior quicker than talking about behavior will improve behavior.

Elder Henry B. Eyring, “The Power of Teaching Doctrine,” Apr. 1999
The question should not be whether we are too tired to prepare to teach doctrine, or whether it wouldn’t be better to draw a child closer by just having fun, or whether the child isn’t beginning to think that we preach too much. The question must be, “With so little time and so few opportunities, what words of doctrine from me will fortify them against the attacks on their faith which are sure to come?” The words you speak today may be the ones they remember. And today will soon be gone.
The best time to teach is early, while children are still immune to the temptations of their mortal enemy, and long before the words of truth may be harder for them to hear in the noise of their personal struggles. 

4.    TEACH CHILDREN TO EXERCISE AGENCY

Elder David A. Bednar, “Seek Learning by Faith,” Ensign, Sep. 2007

Consider the question posed by Heavenly Father to Adam in the Garden of Eden, “Where art thou?” (Genesis 3:9). Obviously the Father knew where Adam was hiding, but He, nonetheless, asked the question. Why? A wise and loving Father enabled His child to act in the learning process and not merely be acted upon. There was no one-way lecture to a disobedient child, as perhaps many of us might be inclined to deliver. Rather, the Father helped Adam as a learner to act as an agent and appropriately exercise his agency.

I have observed a common characteristic among the instructors who have had the greatest influence in my life. They refused to give me easy answers to hard questions. In fact, they did not give me any answers at all. Rather, they pointed the way and helped me take the steps to find my own answers.

Experience has enabled me to understand that an answer given by another person usually is not remembered for very long, if remembered at all. But an answer we discover or obtain through the exercise of faith, typically, is retained for a lifetime. The most important learnings of life are caught—not taught.

Please note how this inspired challenge is a classic example of learning by faith. First, you and I were not commanded, coerced, or required to read. Rather, we were invited to exercise our agency as agents and act in accordance with correct principles. President Hinckley, as an inspired teacher, encouraged us to act and not just be acted upon. Each of us, ultimately, had to decide if and how we would respond to the challenge—and if we would endure to the end of the task.

Quentin L. Cook, “Stewardship – a Sacred Trust,” Oct. 2009

We are responsible for the talents we have received. Children who are not taught that they are accountable for their time and talents are increasingly subject to the foolishness and unrighteousness that are so pervasive in the world.

What the Scriptures Teach About How to Be a Better Parent

We are supposed to liken the scriptures unto ourselves and I have found in my life that the example of Nephi building the boat illustrates some critical points to remember when parenting.

The first point is that Nephi didn’t build the ship after the manner of men. This is a good reminder that we shouldn’t always base our parenting choices on what is popular at the time. I often try to remind myself that “The Lords ways are higher than my ways (Isaiah 55:8-9).”

The other important lesson from Nephi is that “the Lord did show [him] from time to time after what manner [he] should work the timbers.” Also, that Nephi had to “go to the mount oft, and [he] did pray oft unto the Lord; wherefore the Lord showed unto [him] great things.]

I remember one time when my daughter was in high school, I noticed that she was being extra quiet and keeping to herself. I tried on several occasions to talk with her and ask what was wrong. She kept assuring me that everything was fine. I kept praying for help to know what to do, and one day I had a feeling about what was concerning my daughter. As I approached her on that specific concern, she opened up and we were able to talk through the problem.

The other scripture from the list below that has really blessed my parenting is from Alma Chapter 4. Alma the Younger was both the chief judge and the high priest over the Church. The members of the Church were becoming more wicked. So “Alma delivered up the judgment-seat to Nephihah, and confined himself wholly to the high priesthood... that he himself might go forth among his people that he might preach the word of God unto them.” 

I have seen that one of the challenges of today is that parents can get so busy doing good things, that they are not around enough for their children. When I was a young mother back in 1987, President Benson gave his talk, “To Mothers in Zion.” His first of ten suggestions was:  

First, take time to always be at the crossroads when your children are coming or going—when they leave and return from school—when they leave and return from dates—when they bring friends home. Be there at the crossroads whether your children are six or sixteen.

In the almost 30 years since, (my youngest in now in high school) I have found this to be very wise counsel.

See also Elder Bednar’s talk: “More Diligent and Concerned at Home.”

Here are some of the scriptures from the Book of Mormon which provide insight on parenting and relationships:

1 Nephi 18:1-3 And we did work timbers of curious workmanship. And the Lord did show me from time to time after what manner I should work the timbers of the ship.

Now I, Nephi, did not work the timbers after the manner which was learned by men, neither did I build the ship after the manner of men; but I did build the ship after the manner which the Lord had shown unto me.

And I, Nephi, did go into the mount oft, and I did pray oft unto the Lord; wherefore the Lord showed unto me great things.

2 Nephi 25:28 I have spoken plainly unto you that ye cannot misunderstand.

2 Nephi 33:4 I know that the Lord God will consecrate my prayers for the gain of my people.

Jacob 2:8-9, 35 And it supposeth me that they have come up hither to hear the pleasing word of God, yea, the word which healeth the wounded soul. And because of the strictness of the word of God, which cometh down against you, many hearts died, pierced with deep wounds.

Alma 4:18-20 [Alma] delivered the judgment-seat unto Nephihah. And this he did that he himself might go forth among the people of Nephi, that he might preach the word of God unto them. Alma delivered up the judgment-seat to Nephihah, and confined himself wholly to the high priesthood of the holy order of God.

Alma 6:6 They should gather themselves together oft, and join in fasting and mighty prayer in behalf of the welfare of the souls of those who knew not God.

Alma 10:7 For he [Alma] has fasted many days because of the sins of the people.

Alma 39:7 I would not dwell upon your crimes, to harrow up your soul, if it were not for your good.

Alma 42:1,30 For ye so try to suppose that it is injustice that the sinner should be consigned to a state of misery. I desire that ye should deny the justice of God no more. Do not endeavor to excuse yourself in the least point because of your sins, by denying the justice of God; but do you let the justice of God, and his mercy, and his long-suffering have full sway in your heart; and let it bring you down to the dust in humility.

3 Nephi 11:29 He that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention, and he stirreth up the hearts of men to contend with anger, one with another.

3 Nephi 22:13 And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children.

3 Nephi 25:6 I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord. And he shall turn [bind or seal J.S.] the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.

Mormon 8:20 Behold what the scripture says – man shall not smite, neither shall he judge; for judgment is mine, saith the Lord, and vengeance is mine also, and I will repay.

Moroni 8:2-3 My beloved son, Moroni...I am mindful of you always in my prayers, continually praying unto God the Father in the name of his Holy Child, Jesus, that he, through his infinite goodness and grace, will keep you through the endurance of faith on his name to the end.

How to Be a Better Parent: Preparing Our Children for The Fight Against Evil - Lessons from the War Chapters of the Book of Mormon

What lessons can we learn for today in the War Chapters of the Book of Mormon? Decide for yourself of how these might relate to today’s fight against evil. How can you apply these in your own family or situation?

Elder Bednar did a great job listing some the lessons we learn from the war chapters:

David A. Bednar, BYUI, 2003

Have you ever wondered why so much is recorded in the Book of Mormon about war? There are approximately 100 recorded instances of armed conflict in the Book of Mormon. The word war occurs 132 times in the Book of Mormon. The war chapters of Alma 43-63 alone include more than 50 pages- approximately 10 percent of the entire Book of Mormon.

Why so much about war? And how do the descriptions of wars and battles help us today in seeking the gift of courage? President Benson taught:

The Book of Mormon was written for us today. God is the author of the book. God, who knows the end from the beginning, told [Mormon] what to include in his abridgment that we would need for our day (President Ezra Taft Benson, Conference Report, April 1975, p. 94).

Let me suggest that one of the primary reasons so much information is recorded about war in the Book of Mormon is to help you and me in these latter days appropriately seek the gift of courage.

What lessons do we learn about courage and war in The Book of Mormon?

·         We learn about the strategies and tactics of those who oppose righteousness

·         The defensive and protective strategies and tactics of the righteous.

·         We learn that the righteous can be strengthened in battle by the hand of the Lord.

·         And perhaps most importantly, we learn that small groups of the righteous can escape from the grasp of their enemies or emerge victorious against overwhelming opposing numbers and weaponry.

What Worked in the Past Isn’t Enough: Prepare in a Manner “Which has Never Been Known” Alma 49:8

Note this warning given by President Henry B. Eyring of the First Presidency:

“As the forces around us increase in intensity, whatever spiritual strength was once sufficient will not be enough. And whatever growth in spiritual strength we once thought was possible, greater growth will be made available to us. Both the need for spiritual strength and the opportunity to acquire it will increase at rates which we underestimate at our peril” (“Always” [Church Educational System fireside for young adults], Jan. 3, 1999, 3, ldsces.org).

Alma 43 - How did Moroni prepare against the evil of Zerahemnah? (an army twice as numerous)

1.      vs. 19 - Captain Moroni prepared his people with armor and thick clothing

2.      vs. 23 - Captain Moroni sends spies to watch the enemy

3.      vs. 23 - Captain Moroni sends a messenger to Alma the prophet to have him ask the Lord where they should go

4.      vs. 48 - As his men begin to fear, Captain Moroni inspires his men with the truth of their cause

5.      vs. 49 - they cry to the Lord for help and in vs. 50 In the selfsame hour that they cry to the Lord, they stand with power against their enemies.

6.      Alma 44:9  Zerahemnah, leader of their enemies, denies that it was the Lord who gave the Nephites the victory.

Alma 48 - How did Moroni prepare against the evil of Amalakiah?

1.      vs. 7 - Captain Moroni was “preparing the minds of the people to be faithful unto the Lord.

2.      vs. 8 - Captain Moroni erected small forts, or places of resort to enclose his armies, and built walls of stone to encircle them about.

3.      vs. 9 - Captain Moroni fortified their weakest places by placing the greater number of men.

Ensign Article by By Kerry Hanson Jensen, 1/16

I began to feel a sense of helplessness and vulnerability in protecting my children. I unexpectedly found reassurance in 1 Nephi 15. Nephi is explaining Lehi’s vision of the tree of life to Laman and Lemuel when they ask the meaning of the river of water. Nephi answers in verse 27: “And I said unto them that the water which my father saw was filthiness; and so much was his mind swallowed up in other things that he beheld not the filthiness of the water”. Lehi’s mind was focused on the tree of life and getting his family to it to partake of its fruit! He didn’t even see the filthiness because of this focus.

That was the answer! Keeping inappropriate media out of our home was a start, but a more direct and conscious effort to teach our children the gospel is what would ultimately be their best defense against anything that could lead them away.

Alma 58 - How did the Lord strengthen the people against their enemies?

1.      Helaman and the Stripling Warriors poured out their souls for strength vs. 10

2.      The Lord did visit them with assurances and did speak peace to their souls vs. 11

3.      The Lord did grant unto them great faith and did cause that they should hope for deliverance. vs. 11

Other Resources:

Alma 50: 23 never had been a happier time among the Nephites

https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2013/10/personal-strength-through-the-atonement-of-jesus-christ?lang=eng&query=%22Captain+Moroni%22

Elder Richard G. Scott

In between the many battles, Captain Moroni directed fortification of the weakest cities. “He caused that they should build a breastwork of timbers upon the inner bank of the ditch; and they cast up dirt out of the ditch against the breastwork of timbers … until they had encircled the city … with a strong wall of timbers and earth, to an exceeding height.”14 Captain Moroni understood the importance of fortifying the weak areas to create strength.15

https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/10/prepared-in-a-manner-that-never-had-been-known?lang=eng&query=%22Captain+Moroni%22

Linda C. Reeves

As I am again reading about Captain Moroni in the Book of Mormon, I am reminded that one of Moroni’s greatest accomplishments was his careful preparation of the Nephites to withstand the frightening Lamanite army. He prepared his people so well that we read, “Behold, to [the Lamanites’] uttermost astonishment, [the Nephites] were prepared for them, in a manner which never had been known.”3

That phrase, “prepared … in a manner which never had been known,” really caught my attention.

How can we better prepare for sacred temple blessings? The Lord taught, “And again, I will give unto you a pattern in all things.”4Let’s consider a scriptural pattern to help us prepare well. Moroni’s preparation for the enemy took consistent and faithful diligence, and this pattern will require the same.

Women: Should Mothers Work? A Gospel Perspective

Should mother's work outside the home? This can be a hard decision with many factors to consider. There is definitely an endless amount of advise on this from a worldly standpoint. I would suggest that we prayerfully ask for humility as we study the words of the prophets to find the right answers for ourselves. Sometimes life doesn't give us a choice, but when it does, the blessings of following the prophets can't be measured.

Read this great collection of quotes from various prophets about mother's working: Eternal Marriage Student Manual, page 237-40. Here is one of the quotes: 

“One apparent impact of the women’s movement has been the feelings of discontent it has created among young women who have chosen the role of wife and mother. They are often made to feel that there are more exciting and self-fulfilling roles for women than housework, diaper changing, and children calling for mother. This view loses sight of the eternal perspective that God elected women to the noble role of mother and that exaltation is eternal fatherhood and eternal motherhood. [‘To the Elect Women of the Kingdom of God,’ Nauvoo Illinois Relief Society Dedication, 30 June 1978.]” (Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson, 506–7, 548–49).

Here are a few other quotes that have helped me find joy in raising my children:

Elder Richard G. Scott, "The Joy of Living the Great Plan of Happiness," October 1996

One of Satan’s most effective approaches is to demean the role of wife and mother in the home. This is an attack at the very heart of God’s plan to foster love between husband and wife and to nurture children in an atmosphere of understanding, peace, appreciation, and support. Much of the violence that is rampant in the world today is the harvest of weakened homes. Government and social plans will not effectively correct that, nor can the best efforts of schools and churches fully compensate for the absence of the tender care of a compassionate mother and wife in the home.

This morning President Hinckley spoke of the importance of a mother in the home. Study his message. As a mother guided by the Lord, you weave a fabric of character in your children from threads of truth through careful instruction and worthy example. You imbue the traits of honesty, faith in God, duty, respect for others, kindness, self-confidence, and the desire to contribute, to learn, and to give in your trusting children’s minds and hearts. No day-care center can do that. It is your sacred right and privilege.

Of course, as a woman you can do exceptionally well in the workplace, but is that the best use of your divinely appointed talents and feminine traits? As a husband, don’t encourage your wife to go to work to help in your divinely appointed responsibility of providing resources for the family, if you can possibly avoid it. As the prophets have counseled, to the extent possible with the help of the Lord, as parents, work together to keep Mother in the home.²² Your presence there will strengthen the self-confidence of your children and decrease the chance of emotional challenges. Moreover, as you teach truth by word and example, those children will come to understand who they are and what they can obtain as divine children of Father in Heaven.

President Hinckley "To the Women of the Church, 2003:

Then we have you older women who are neither young nor old. You are in the most wonderful season of your lives. Your children are in their teens. Possibly one or two are married. Some are on missions, and you are sacrificing to keep them in the field. You are hoping and praying for their success and happiness. To you dear women I offer some special counsel.

Count your blessings; name them one by one. You don't need a great big mansion of a house with an all-consuming mortgage that goes on forever. You do need a comfortable and pleasant home where love abides. Someone has said that there is no more beautiful picture than that of a good woman cooking a meal for those she loves. Weigh carefully that which you do. You do not need some of the extravagances that working outside the home might bring. Weigh carefully the importance of your being in the home when your children come from school.

Mothers, take good care of your daughters. Be close to them. Listen to them. Talk with them. Lead them from doing foolish things. Guide them into doing the right thing. See that they dress in a comely and modest fashion. Safeguard them from the terrible evils that are all about them.

Nurture your sons with love and counsel. Teach them the importance of personal cleanliness, of neatness in their dress. Sloppy ways lead to sloppy lives. Instill in them a sense of discipline. Keep them worthy of service to the Church as missionaries. Give them things to do so that they may learn to work. Teach them to be frugal. Labor and frugality lead to prosperity. Teach them that nothing really good happens after 11 o'clock at night. And do not spoil them. If they go on missions, they may be compelled to live in circumstances that you would not wish for them. Do not worry about them. Give them encouragement.

Stir within your children the desire for education. This is the latchkey to success in life. And at the same time, teach them that as President David O. McKay was wont to remind us, "No other success can compensate for failure in the home." 1

Elder Richard G. Scott, "The Power of Correct Principles," May 1993

“When as mothers, you are consistently in the home, at least during the hours the children are predominantly there, you can detect the individual needs of each child and provide ways to satisfy them.  Your divinely given instincts help sense a child’s special talents and unique capacities so that you can nurture and strengthen them.

Recently I reviewed the history of many missionaries and found a powerful correlation between exceptional missionaries and mothers who chose to remain home, often at great financial and personal sacrifice.

How grateful you mothers of youth like these must feel as you see some of the fruits of your sacrifice.  You have a vision of the power of obediently, patiently teaching truth, because you look beyond the peanut butter sandwiches, soiled clothing, tedious hours of routine, struggles with homework, and long hours by a sickbed.

You must be willing to forgo personal pleasure and self-interest for family-centered activity, and not turn over to church, school, or society the principal role of fostering a child’s well-rounded development.  It takes time, great effort, and significant personal sacrifice to ‘train up a child in the way he should go.’  But where can you find greater rewards for a job well done?”

Now the most important principal I can share: Anchor our life in Jesus Christ, your Redeemer.  Make your Eternal Father and his Beloved Son the most important priority in your life--more important than life itself, more important than a beloved companion or children or anyone on earth.  Make their will your central desire.  Then all that you need for happiness will come to you.” 

Elder L. Tom Perry, “Mothers Teaching Children in The Home, April 2010”

My mother understood the value of teaching her children about standards, values, and doctrine while they were young. While she was grateful to others who taught her children outside the home at either school or church, she recognized that parents are entrusted with the education of their children and, ultimately, parents must ensure that their children are being taught what their Heavenly Father would have them learn. My siblings and I were quizzed very carefully by our mother after we had been taught away from the home to be certain the correct lessons were reaching our ears and shaping our minds.

Teaching in the home is becoming increasingly important in today’s world, where the influence of the adversary is so widespread and he is attacking, attempting to erode and destroy the very foundation of our society, even the family. Parents must resolve that teaching in the home is a most sacred and important responsibility. While other institutions, such as church and school, can assist parents to “train up a child in the way he [or she] should go” (Proverbs 22:6), ultimately this responsibility rests with parents.

Parents must bring light and truth into their homes by one family prayer, one scripture study session, one family home evening, one book read aloud, one song, and one family meal at a time. They know that the influence of righteous, conscientious, persistent, daily parenting is among the most powerful and sustaining forces for good in the world.

I believe it is by divine design that the role of motherhood emphasizes the nurturing and teaching of the next generation. We see so many challenges today from distracting and destructive influences intended to mislead God’s children. We are seeing many young people who lack the deep spiritual roots necessary to remain standing in faith as storms of unbelief and despair swirl around them. Too many of our Father in Heaven’s children are being overcome by worldly desires. The onslaught of wickedness against our children is at once more subtle and more brazen than it has ever been. Teaching the gospel of Jesus Christ in the home adds another layer of insulation to protect our children from worldly influences.

Conversion: Desires & Capacity

Richard G. Scott, “Do What Is Right,” CES Fireside 3 March 1996.

You are at a time of life when there are many critically important decisions to be made, and you are understandably unsure of your capacity to make them. Over time, that capacity will increase and grow stronger until it becomes easier and easier to automatically do the right things.

Every time you make the right choice in the face of potential criticism, you build strength that makes it easier the next time. The reverse is also true. Satan counts on that.
Your decisions are like switch points on a railroad system. They determine where you will end up in life. When you consistently make the right choices, you are the happiest.

You will learn that it is easiest over the long run to stand for what is right and do the difficult thing to begin with. Once you take that position, following through is not too hard. An individual who cuts corners and justifies some departure from true standards, for whatever reason, finds that seeds are planted that produce problems later. Those problems are far more difficult to overcome than taking a correct stand initially.

Richard G. Scott, Full Conversion Brings Happiness, Ensign, May 2002

1) Each of us has observed how some individuals go through life consistently doing the right things. When difficult choices are to be made, they seem to invariably make the right ones, even though there were enticing alternatives available to them. We know that they are subject to temptation, but they seem oblivious to it.

2) Likewise, we have observed how others are not so valiant in the decisions they make.  In a powerfully spiritual environment, they resolve to do better, to change their course of life, to set aside debilitating habits. They are very sincere in their determination to change, yet they are soon back doing the same things they resolved to abandon.

3) What is it that makes the difference in the lives of these two groups? How can you consistently make the right choices? The scriptures give us insight.  True conversion is the fruit of faith, repentance, and consistent obedience. Faith comes by hearing the word of God and responding to it. You will receive from the Holy Ghost a confirming witness of things you accept on faith by willingly doing them.  You will be led to repent of errors resulting from wrong things done or right things not done.  As a consequence, your capacity to consistently obey will be strengthened.

4) This cycle of faith, repentance, and consistent obediencewill lead you to greater conversion with its attendant blessings. True conversion will strengthen your capacity to do what you
know you should do, when you should do it, regardless of the circumstances.

Robert D. Hales, “The Gift and Blessings of Agency,” Ensign, May 2006,  4–8

Agency is the catalyst that leads us to express our inward spiritual desires in outward Christlike behavior.  I testify that agency is strengthened by our faith and obedience. 

Neal A. Maxwell, “Becoming a Disciple,” Ensign, Jun 1996,  12

Sometimes, as we commence taking up the cross, we ignore or neglect the first part of Jesus’ instruction. He said, “Deny [yourselves], and take up [your] cross daily, and follow me” (Luke 9:23). 
This self-denial is especially challenging in a world filled with so many sensual and secular stimuli.
Denying oneself has never been popular as a lifestyle, and it is clearly not today.

What is it that we are to deny ourselves? Any appetites or actions which produce not only the seven deadly sins but all the others. Happily, self-denial, when we practice it, brings great relief.  Self denial also includes not letting our hearts become too set on any trivial or worldly thing. Then we can learn the great lessons about the relationship of righteousness to the powers and the joys of heaven.

The fundamental fact is that if we do not deny ourselves, we are diverted. Even if not wholly consumed with the things of the world, we are still diverted sufficiently to make serious discipleship impossible. As a consequence, all the gifts and talents God has given us are not put meekly on the altar to serve others and to please God. Instead, we withhold to please ourselves. Diversion, therefore, is not necessarily gross transgression, but it is a genuine deprivation, especially if we consider what we might have become and what more we might have done to bless and to help others.

By denying the desires of the natural man to the degree that they exist in each of us, we avoid this diversion, making it easier for us to take up the cross of discipleship.

So it is that discipleship is to choose joy over pleasure. It is to opt for the things of eternity over the trendy and appealing things of the moment. Eventually, we become readied for the final moment of consecration, when, gladly and completely, we let our wills be swallowed up in the will of the Father. Jesus did this in Gethsemane, where he said, “Not my will, but thine, be done” (Luke 22:42). What was God’s will? That Jesus complete the Atonement. Even so, Jesus prayed, “Take away this cup from me” (Mark 14:36); and still later he cried out, “My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” (Matt. 27:46). Yet Jesus yielded.

The Great Pivot

Is it possible to develop discipleship when one has no initial, inner desires for discipleship? Can we plant inner desires in someone against his or her will? External exhortation of such individuals won’t usually produce much change. For most of us, however, even when the inner desire is there, it requires periodic sharpening by outward circumstances to quicken any existing inner desires and to get us to act upon them. 

Richard G. Scott, “Do What Is Right,” CES Fireside 3 March 1996.

You are at a time of life when there are many critically important decisions to be made, and you are understandably unsure of your capacity to make them. You live in a world where it is increasingly more difficult to assure that your worthy dreams and aspirations will come true by avoiding the allurements and temptations that Satan would put in your path to destroy you. You may have doubts about your own self-worth. You want to be accepted. You have questions about your future and about how to gain true and enduring friendships. You want to find an eternal companion who has the same deep desire to live worthily and to accomplish much of good in this life.

You are growing in spiritual discipline—that is, your ability to discern the promptings of the Spirit and your capacity to follow them. Over time, that capacity will increase and grow stronger until it becomes easier and easier to automatically do the right things. You have built a shield against temptation. But now, while that spiritual discipline is developing, you must be very careful to avoid choices that would take you from the path of happiness.

I have learned from personal experience how being helped to make the right decision at a critical time can bless your entire life. I have also seen by working closely with individuals who made wrong decisions how devastating that can be on the rest of their lives. My intent is to give you suggestions on how to be sure you make the right choices. I will share four personal experiences that taught me important lessons, with a sincere desire to help you gain confidence in making the right choices consistently in your life.Then I will try to identify how Satan works so that you will be more prepared to avoid the pitfalls he will place in your path.
In college I was given the privilege of joining a very elect honorary engineering society. As I attended the initiatory activities, everyone was drinking. I asked for a soft drink and was handed a glass. As I raised it to my lips, I could smell alcohol. I looked around the room. All the eyes were on me. These were professionals who had just given me a great honor. Should I pretend to drink so as not to offend? No. I set the glass down and then noticed that three other inductees also set their glasses aside. Do what is right, and others will follow your example. Every time you make the right choice in the face of potential criticism, you build strength that makes it easier the next time. The reverse is also true. Satan counts on that.

I grew up in a home where my father was not a member of the Church and my mother was less active. That all changed later, and they spent much of their life as temple workers. With that background I didn’t know much about the Church, even though I thought I did. When I was about to graduate from the university, the Lord brought an angel into my life. Her name was Jeanene Watkins. She was a beautiful girl. It took me a long time to date her because so many others recognized her wonderful qualities. As we began to date, I discovered that she was all I had ever dreamed of finding. I fell completely in love with her. I could tell she had deep feelings for me also. 

One night when we were talking about the future, she carefully wove into the conversation an important comment. She said, “When I marry, it will be to a returned missionary in the temple.” I don’t remember anything else she said. I hadn’t thought much about a mission and didn’t understand much about temple marriage. I went home and couldn’t think of anything else. I was awake all night. I couldn’t do anything at the university the next day. Soon I was at the bishop’s office, having prayed about the importance of a mission. Jeanene and I both went on missions and when we returned were sealed in the temple. Much later I came to realize that she would have left me had I not made the right choices. Jeanene’s courage in standing up for her dream of a temple marriage to a returned missionary, regardless of her love for me, has made all of the difference in our lives together. I will never be able to thank her adequately for not compromising her righteous dreams.

Your decisions are like switch points on a railroad system. They determine where you will end up in life. When you consistently make the right choices, you are the happiest, receive the greatest personal growth, and have the most productive life. When you make the wrong choices, you may find yourself at an entirely different destination than you want. While there is the process of repentance to come back, it is often painful and sometimes leaves permanent physical scars that cannot be cured as well as your spirit can.

At one time I worked on the immediate staff of a very hardworking, demanding, misunderstood man who became the father of the nuclear navy that provided great protection for the United States at a critical time in world conditions. His name is Hyman Rickover. I have great respect for him. 

After 11 years in that service, I received a call from the First Presidency to preside over a mission. I knew I would have to tell Admiral Rickover immediately. As I explained the call and that it would mean I would have to quit my job, he became rather excited. He said some unrepeatable things, broke the paper tray on his desk, and in the comments that followed, clearly established two points: “Scott, what you are doing in this defense program is so vital that it will take a year to replace you, so you can’t go. Second, if you do go, you are a traitor to your country.”

I said, “I can train my replacement in the two remaining months, and there won’t be any risk to the country.”

There was more conversation, and he finally said, “I never will talk to you again. I don’t want to see you again. You are finished, not only here, but don’t ever plan to work in the nuclear field again.”

I responded, “Admiral, you can bar me from the office, but unless you prevent me, I am going to turn this assignment over to another individual.”

He asked, “What’s the name of the man who wants you?”

I told him, “President David O. McKay.”

He added, “If that’s the way Mormons act, I don’t want any of them working for me.”

I knew he would try to call President McKay (1873–1970), who was ill, and that conversation would benefit no one. I also knew that in the Idaho Falls area there were many members of the Church whose families depended upon their working in our program. I didn’t want to cause them harm. I also knew that I had been called by the Lord. I didn’t know what to do. Then, the words of the song we sang tonight began to run through my mind: “Do what is right; let the consequence follow” (Hymns, number 237). 

While I had never contacted a General Authority in my life, I had been interviewed by Elder Harold B. Lee (1899–1973) of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, so I had a feeling to call him. I explained that the admiral would try to call President McKay and would make some negative comments, but everything was all right and I would be able to accept my call. While doing that, my heart kept saying, “Is this going to turn out all right or will somebody be innocently hurt who depends on our program for livelihood?” The song would come back: “Do what is right; let the consequence follow.” True to his word, the admiral ceased to speak to me. When critical decisions had to be made, he would send a messenger or I would communicate through a third party. We accomplished the changeover.

On my last day in the office I asked for an appointment with him, and his secretary gasped. I went with a copy of the Book of Mormon in my hand. He looked at me and said, “Sit down, Scott. What do you have? I have tried every way I can to force you to change. What is it you have?”

There followed a very interesting, quiet conversation. There was more listening this time. He said he would read the Book of Mormon. Then something I never thought would occur happened. He added, “When you come back from the mission, I want you to call me. There will be a job for you.”


You will learn that it is easiest over the long run to stand for what is right and do the difficult thing to begin with. Once you take that position, following through is not too hard. An individual who cuts corners and justifies some departure from true standards, for whatever reason, finds that seeds are planted that produce problems later. Those problems are far more difficult to overcome than taking a correct stand initially.